This is for all:
the ones who recently married,
the ones who have been married,
the ones who soon to get married, and
the ones who are still looking.
Years ago,
I asked God to give me a spouse, "You don't own because you didn't ask"
God said. Not only I asked for a spouse but also explained what kind of
spouse I wanted. I want a nice, tender, forgiving, passionate, honest,
peaceful, generous, understanding, pleasant, warm, intelligent,
humorous, attentive, compassionate and truthful spouse. I even mentioned
the physical characteristics I dream about. As time went by I added the
required list of my wanted spouse.
One night, in my prayer,
God talked to my heart : "My servant, I cannot give you what you
want"
I asked, "Why God?"
God said "Because I am God and I am fair. God is the truth and all I
do are true and right"
I asked "God, I don't understand why I cannot have what I ask from
you?".
God answered, "I will explain. It is not fair and right for Me to
fulfill your demand, because I cannot give something that is not your
own self. It is not fair to give someone who is full of love to you if
sometimes you are still hostile, or to give you someone generous but
sometimes you can be cruel, or someone forgiving; however, you still
hide revenge, someone sensitive however, you are very insensitive....".
God then said to me :
"It is better for Me to give you someone who I know could grow to
have all qualities you are searching rather than to make you waste your
time to find someone who already have the qualities you want. Your
spouse would be bone from your bone and flesh from your flesh and you
will see yourself in her and both of you will be one. Marriage is like a
school. It is a life-long education. It is where you and your partner
make adjustment and aim not merely to please each other, but to be
better human beings and to make a solid teamwork."
I do not give you a perfect partner, because you are not perfect
either. I give you a partner with whom you would grow with."
